Attitude is everything.
I remember when I was young my dad came into my room and handed me a piece of paper. At the top it said ‘Attitude’ and below that; ‘attitude is an inner concept – it is the most important thing you can develop in your lifetime.’
Maybe it was that piece of paper that got me on my journey of improvement – maybe not. But, I do know that everything seems to open up when you have a good attitude. It creates space in your life to be vulnerable with people which is an important part of life. It creates space for
- new opportunities
- stronger relationships
- and a healthier mindset.
A bad attitude attracts negativity. The law of attraction may be a trendy concept right now but it’s because it’s true. When you have a bad attitude, you attract negative things. You might not even realize why bad things keep happening but it’s likely because of your attitude.
The dictionary definition of attitude is: a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior. I love this definition. You see people all around you acting in ways that reflect their attitude. We notice and point out people with ‘bad attitudes’ all the time.
I have listed what I think are the most important things you can start doing today to improve your attitude. No matter where you think your attitude is at, we can all agree that everyone, me included, can make changes to develop and improve their attitude. It’s one of the most important things that we can do.
5 Ways to improve your Attitude
Practice Gratitude EverydayPracticing gratitude every day will start helping you develop a positive attitude. We throw the word gratitude around all the time but there are many ways to implement it in everyday life.
a) One way is through prayer. If you are someone who prays on a daily basis, gratitude can easily be tied into that. It’s one of the most powerful gratitude exercises that you can do.
b) Another way is by keeping a gratitude journal. They come in many different formats. It can be as simple as using a regular notepad and writing down something you’re grateful for as soon as you wake up every day.
c) You can also place reminders around your house. Write little gratitude notes and place them on your bathroom door or in your vehicle or on your mirror to read when you brush your teeth. These serve as reminders throughout your day to centre you on what’s important.
Throughout the day, there are so many things that get thrown at us. Work, stress, relationships, kids, health issues — these day-to-day negative thoughts can pull us away from the centre. By practicing gratitude through meditation, prayer, journaling, writing daily reminders, etc., you centre yourself back on what’s important.
Don’t Use UltimatumsWhen you use an ultimatum you are backing yourself into a corner and forcing yourself into decisions. I hear people say to themselves, “if ______ happens one more time — that’s it, I’m done.”
Now, when that thing happens again, you have to decide if you are going to do what you said. Are you going to give up and quit? Or, will you fight through it? If you decide to fight through it, you’re not being consistent with what you had said you would do.
Ultimatums don’t leave space for you take personal responsibility in your life. I like to think of it like this: every challenge is an opportunity for growth. When I set ultimatums for myself, I’m preventing myself the opportunity to grow. Ultimatums mean you’re making emotionally-based decisions – you’re reacting which clouds your judgment and can lead to bad decisions.
I am a believer in people, I don’t create ultimatums because I want to give them the opportunity for growth. Let people around you make mistakes. Believe in them and leave room for them to learn and grow, you might even end up growing together.
SmileSmile, it’s contagious.
Find a reason to smile. When you smile you start to attract different kinds of people to your life. A smile in passing, even to a stranger, could fill their emotional bucket. There is a lot of stress out there and there are a lot of people that lack belief in themselves and the direction of their life. You don’t know what people have going on. Often, just a small encounter with a little smile has the ability to change someone’s day for the better.
If you practice this throughout the day and start filling people’s emotional buckets with a smile, you will start to feel better about yourself. You might gain some momentum into your life and see your attitude begin to change. At first, you might not really know why things are moving in a positive direction but sometimes it can be tied back to a simple smile.
Remember how powerful a smile can be in somebody’s life.
Use Setbacks to Improve Your Mental ToughnessSetbacks happen. When you expect them to happen you can choose to use them to learn, grow and develop mental toughness. Imagine if every time you had a challenge in your life you were able to reframe it as a learning opportunity.
How would that change the way you think and act?
Remember, it’s only through our setbacks that we can have comebacks.
We need the valleys to climb to the peak. Practice training your mind to see setbacks as comeback opportunities. When you practice some of these techniques you will gain momentum and start to see change in your attitude.
Don’t Take Yourself Too SeriouslyDevelop the ability to laugh at yourself. I don’t mean in a self-deprecating way where you’re always throwing yourself under the bus and making jokes at your own expense. Just stop taking yourself so seriously. It will keep you more relaxed and help people feel more comfortable around you.
Life is short, don’t tie your happiness to money, possessions, or relationships. Tie your happiness to the journey. Having the ability to laugh at yourself allows you to live in the moment. You are able to recognize and cherish the progress in your life and the progress in situations around you.
There are probably another 20+ points I could make about developing and maintaining a better attitude. Just remember one thing, a great attitude is everything. If you’re willing to put the work in, it can be developed, and it can be changed. If you’re reading this, I want to challenge you to work on your attitude for the next 30 days and see how your world and your perspective changes.