If you want to make a change in your life, you need a plan.
A plan for success, change and growth. Sometimes to get that plan, you need frustration in your life.
A high level of frustration is the anatomy for an explosion in your life.
What I mean by that is, if you are extremely frustrated with something in your life that probably means you’re ready for a change. If you feel like you’re comfortably floating through life – you’re not frustrated enough. Think about it, what in your life is going to be the catalyst for change?
Now, if you’re serious about making a change in your life there are three things that you need crystal clear clarity on:
Clarity of Purpose – the why
Clarity of Aim – the what
Clarity of Plan – the how
These three things are based on conversations I’ve had with my mentors as well as the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. I’ve mentioned this book several times on my posts, because it’s changed my life. If you’re serious about making changes and making a plan for your life – you should read it.
3 THings You Need Clarity On TO Change your Life
- Clarity of Purpose
This is your why.
Building your purpose is like building a fire. A fire requires multiple logs in order to thrive. The more logs you throw on the fire – the bigger the fire is going to burn. Likewise, the more reasons you have the more power you have in your purpose.
You need your fire to be strong because if it dies down, predators will creep in. Like a fire, when your purpose wanes, negative people and thoughts start to set in. All of the sudden, your fire is so low that a small breeze could blow your little flame out. When your flame goes out, next thing you know, you’re back at your job and in your comfort zone. Without a purpose, you start to create reasons why the venture you were after wasn’t for you. In reality, you didn’t have enough logs on your fire.
Maybe a big log for you are your kids. Maybe you want a better relationship with your wife. Or, maybe you want more time and money.
Think about it. What are those logs for you?
You need to become obsessed with what those reasons are. You want to be obsessed with something in your life – it’s the only way to make changes.
Think back to when you were in a new relationship. Maybe you were just starting to date and the first few months were so exciting. You were always waiting by your phone for a text message. You were thinking about that person all the time – they became your obsession. Or, think back to when you started a new craft or hobby and you wanted to learn everything about it. You read all the books, you researched endlessly and became obsessed with that thing at that time. You need to become obsessed with your purpose like you were for that person or that hobby.
Can your why – your purpose – change along the way?
Imagine you set off on this amazing journey sailing across the ocean. You have a long-term plan and you know where you’re headed. You’re in your boat, moving along but halfway through your journey you find this island that you love. You stop there for a couple days. Days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months, eventually realize this is where you want to be.
Where you want to go might change over time. It’s your job to constantly be course-correcting.
- Clarity of Aim
This is the what.
Your aim is the first thing you need to focus on to move towards what you want. There is always one thing to focus on that is the most important ‘next step’ in your plan. If you have too many things that you’re focusing on you will never get any of them done.
Don’t try to focus on too many things at the same time when there is one domino that you can hit first to set the rest of the dominoes into motion.
A good example of this is my fitness journey. There are so many things I want to accomplish when it comes to fitness. I want to eat better, lose weight, feel stronger, look good in a bathing suit, and so on. I have to step back and think, what’s the first domino for me to focus on? For me setting an alarm for 5:15 am to go to the gym is my first domino. If I get up early and get to the gym, I’ll eat healthier, I’ll start to lose weight and eventually I’ll look good in my bathing suit. It all starts with me setting my aim on waking up and getting to the gym.
What domino are you focused on? Do you know what domino you need to prioritize? Do you have a game plan?
- Clarity of Plan
This is the how.
The plan is, specifically how are you are going to get where you want to be. This needs to be written down, so you can look at it throughout the day.
If your plan isn’t written down, it’s really just a wish.
If you are just hoping you are going to achieve the changes you want in your life, nothing is going to happen. Hope is not a strategy.
Imagine a builder looking at a piece of land with no materials, no architect, no blueprint and just starting to dig and build a house as they go. Think about the time and resources that builder will lose. It might take them 15 years to build a house that would normally take 12 months with the right plan.
That’s what some people do. They let their whole lives pass them by without a plan. Believe me when I say, if you don’t have a written game plan it’s never going to happen.
If you want to make a game plan for your life, there’s a really good book written by Brian Moran called “The 12-week Year.” With 12-week goals you set goals for 3 months at a time. Put this into practice, October/November/December – where do you want to be by the end of the year? When that’s done, set a January/February/March goal.
Write them down and have a plan.
To review, you need clarity in three things if you want to plan for success, growth and change.
You need to be super clear on why you’re doing what you’re doing. Not on what you wanted six months ago but what’s important to you right now. If you don’t know why you want to do, you’re going to start finding reasons to talk yourself out of it. Most people have two opportunities to change their life – just two. Most people let those opportunities pass them by. Maximize on your opportunities by being clear on what you want out of life.
Once you’ve decided on what you want from life, what’s the first domino you need to focus on? Once you have your what, you can make a plan.
How will you get where you want to be? How fast can you do it? What will it look like? The plan is what keeps you fired up to achieve your purpose.
You need clarity in your purpose, aim and plan to be successful. I know a lot of people that seem to have purpose and a plan, but they have no aim. They’re so scattered and what could take them two years ends up taking them ten. I know a lot of other people that have a plan and an aim, but they lack purpose. They’re not motivated they’re just going through the motions.
Remember, it’s never too late to hit the reset button and start making changes in your life.